Wednesday, April 28, 2010


Do you have a question about your relationship(s) or any interpersonal problem or challenge in your life?
Just ask Laura.  Send your question or contact her at .
Also, please feel free to suggest topics for future postings and of course, please add your comments.
Be sure to check in regularly for up to date advice on marriage, individual and family issues and especially answers to your questions on the challenges we all face.
Welcome and enjoy!

Please note that when presenting situations from my counseling practice, I have taken steps to disguise the identities of my clients--sometimes parts of three or four clients and or situations have been combined into one so that their identities are protected as some of the common themes that are presenting in my sessions are highlighted.  No real names or identifying factors are used.  That being said, I thank my clients for their openness, honesty and their willingness to change and improve their lives. Their examples and hard work constantly informs and improves my work. Their courage is my greatest inspiration.

It's Spring! Time to Renew Your Love

The cherry blossoms are blooming, the butterflies come to drink the dripping dew from the leaves...
-Japanese Haiku

When the winter thaw begins, the days grow longer and warmer,  many of us feel a new energy as we turn our hopeful eyes to the soft glow of a new season.  As the world is renewing itself our thoughts turn to the possibility of our own renewal...and with that, our love relationships.
In the Spring a young man's fancy lightly turns to thoughts of love  (Alfred, Lord Tennyson) 

What can we do to take advantage of this new beginning?  As the ground softens to allow the bulbs to push forth their leaves and petals, so too, can we allow our hearts to soften toward our mate?  Do we notice the loveliness of his features, his laugh, his goodness--with new eyes and an open heart?  As the sun warms the air and our shoulders, can curvy roundness replace the stiff posture of pride and disapproval?

Winter is cold, frozen, stiff, and even in its icy beauty can be long, dull, dark and harsh. It's time to make way for Spring--lush, green, growing, soft, warm, growing, flowing, round and open.  Can you look at her with fresh, green eyes of wonder and see what you discover as your "fancy" turns to thoughts of renewed love?

Tips for Spring Cleaning your love relationship:
  • Have soft peaceful music playing when your mate returns home to you
  • Play favorite music when working at home together instead of having the TV on
  •  Bringing home a beautiful spring bouquet for no reason other than its simply beautiful and can bring happiness  to anyone's heart
  •  Fluffly new bed pillows --downy like a new born duckling- and new bed linens in fresh spring colors signifies a change of seasons (and heart)
  • Greet your mate with a full body lingering hug--hold her and look into her eyes--don't be uncomfortable--hold the gaze and see what you find
  • Take an after dinner walk with him--breathing in fresh air...and each other's presence--don't feel the need to say anything...just be...
  • Open your bedroom window slightly--let the cool night and morning air refresh you...and provide an excuse for snuggling
  • Spring break beckons---a great tradition even though you may have long graduated and have no children---go somewhere even if just to a downtown hotel for a night or two--visit some local sights, exhibits, galleries or restaurants that you haven't  yet had a chance to do.  If you do have children on Spring break share it with them--three nights for family--two nights for you two.
  •  Design your spring  garden flower bed and plant it together the first few Saturday mornings in Spring - then go out for breakfast.

 Remember, think Spring...warm,beautiful, sunny, pink and green--lovely Spring! These sensuous thoughts will carry over to all you do indeed.